Your ideal Partner

Have you ever thought about the ideal partner or person you wished to be married to when you were still single and searching? I never did.

A friend of mine once told me that she listed down the qualities of the person she wished to be married with when she was as young as 15 years old. It was in her bucket of list for prayers. When I listened to her story, I was amazed at how early someone can actually started to pray about her other half. As she revealed later, she got almost 90% of her listed qualities in the man she was married to.
I on the other hand never bothered to think of man. There was even a period in my life when I toyed with the idea of remaining single for the rest of my life. It was all because of my parents constant bickering with each other that I naturally presumed marriage was not something to look forward to.

When attraction to the opposite sex started as it should be in any natural progression of life, I began to question like many other did of "what love is?" I had no idea of the meaning of love between a man and a woman or how possible it could be.I assumed love just happened when it should happen and we don't really need to have any kind of standard to start falling in love or to start liking someone. I could conclude that I had a very convoluted ideas of what love was. There was even a lot of new terms I learned which further confused my idea of love. The so called "infatuation", a "crush", and so on and so forth that it was making it harder for me to understand love.It was not surprising that my journey to find true love was stalled and hindered by many unresolved issues of my own doing. It was my lack of understanding on the subject of love which rendered me the problem I faced with much regrets.

Upon much soul searching I found my answer inevitably in one of a well-written book.It was written by Joshua Harris entitled I kissed Dating Goodbye. When I read this book a light sparked in my head and I started to understand better the concept of dating. Paired this book with my friend story and everything becomes clear. It doesn't matter that by the time I read it I was already married. What matter was that, I now have the clear idea of what answer I am going to give to my children once they started questioning about love and relationship.

My guess is that it would be different for each and every one and maybe you would be like Ah Jung in the Lie to Me drama who could not met the list of qualities her man listed out for her but otherwise understand her strength and her true feelings. Either way as long as it works for your love life, just go for it.

If you are still single, list the qualities of the person you wish to be married to, pray for it and then grab a book of dating and relationship by Joshua Harris or else, take your own journey to discover the bitter sweet of finding your true love.

My wish is you will finally get hold on the one who makes your day seems brighter when the day is dark.

Have a wonderful day ahead! ^_^