The good thing about having a husband is you have someone who is exclusively yours for the rest of your life, not that he is your belonging but that he does belong to you. My husband is away and I am having this happy thoughts about him. At the same time, thinking about our long history together, I walked down the path of both happy and sad memories of all the relationship I have had in my life. I wondered why some of my relationships never worked out and why this one relationship survived through much ordeal.
I think I now know the reason why. He does complete me. He acknowledged and see the real me. The worst thing a man can do to you is seeing you as an object of "pleasure" and as someone he always need to correct and protect. I don't mind man being manly and a man who loves shielding me from all the bad things in the world but I rather wanted to feel equally able to protect myself and that is what I get from him. He gives me my freedom to be selfishly me.
I believe when one is given the room and space to be absolutely herself and himself that person can make you much happier because he or she is positive about life and will rub off that positive aura on you. Both sides will benefit when both struggle alongside each other to become the best in the each of their area of expertise.
There is a saying that says something like this; You cannot love a bird with a small cage. No matter where the bird wants to fly to, in order for it to soar freely in your heart you have to become larger spiritually and completely let go but stay within an appropriate distance. That says a lot about how we must not cage our beloved. We must not allow any kind of selfishness to rule them and trap them within our own realm. But at the same time, we must not let them go away that they might fly farther not realizing they have fly away too far they are detached from you for eternity. You have to keep that love on fire. In what way?
Marriage is a hard work. Recently Kris and Kim Kardashian ended their 72 days marriage and although they did not state the reason why it ended it is clear that we do not want to end up divorced like them. Commitment is the key to stay in a marriage. I am unable to accept how some celebrities downplay commitment as if it is a piece of garment that can be discarded at will. If only they plan their commitment as detailed as their wedding ceremony I am sure nothing like that will happen.But, that is not for me to judge.
For all of us who wish only the best for each other, maybe it is not right to tell others what is right and what is wrong but it would be good to remind ourselves that a relationship ended not just because of one person's fault. There are two sides of a coin. It ended because you are "available" and you are "available" only if you have will your "emotion" to be free for temptation. It doesn't necessarily a temptation from a seemingly better guy but a single life that looks like much better than having someone by your side. But than again, who would want to stay married to a man who clearly mistakes you as a "servant" and not an equally able person. It all comes back to what type of marriage you have committed yourself to. I am sure everyone wants to live happily ever after with their prince or princess.
All the best to us. For better or worse!
I think I now know the reason why. He does complete me. He acknowledged and see the real me. The worst thing a man can do to you is seeing you as an object of "pleasure" and as someone he always need to correct and protect. I don't mind man being manly and a man who loves shielding me from all the bad things in the world but I rather wanted to feel equally able to protect myself and that is what I get from him. He gives me my freedom to be selfishly me.
I believe when one is given the room and space to be absolutely herself and himself that person can make you much happier because he or she is positive about life and will rub off that positive aura on you. Both sides will benefit when both struggle alongside each other to become the best in the each of their area of expertise.
There is a saying that says something like this; You cannot love a bird with a small cage. No matter where the bird wants to fly to, in order for it to soar freely in your heart you have to become larger spiritually and completely let go but stay within an appropriate distance. That says a lot about how we must not cage our beloved. We must not allow any kind of selfishness to rule them and trap them within our own realm. But at the same time, we must not let them go away that they might fly farther not realizing they have fly away too far they are detached from you for eternity. You have to keep that love on fire. In what way?
Marriage is a hard work. Recently Kris and Kim Kardashian ended their 72 days marriage and although they did not state the reason why it ended it is clear that we do not want to end up divorced like them. Commitment is the key to stay in a marriage. I am unable to accept how some celebrities downplay commitment as if it is a piece of garment that can be discarded at will. If only they plan their commitment as detailed as their wedding ceremony I am sure nothing like that will happen.But, that is not for me to judge.
For all of us who wish only the best for each other, maybe it is not right to tell others what is right and what is wrong but it would be good to remind ourselves that a relationship ended not just because of one person's fault. There are two sides of a coin. It ended because you are "available" and you are "available" only if you have will your "emotion" to be free for temptation. It doesn't necessarily a temptation from a seemingly better guy but a single life that looks like much better than having someone by your side. But than again, who would want to stay married to a man who clearly mistakes you as a "servant" and not an equally able person. It all comes back to what type of marriage you have committed yourself to. I am sure everyone wants to live happily ever after with their prince or princess.
All the best to us. For better or worse!
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