Removing The Barriers

Excerpt from Staying in Love For A Lifetime by Ed Wheat

Love cannot grow in the same heart with negative attitudes and bad feelings. Concentrate on your attitudes not those of your partner. Two basic principles to be remembered are; first, you do not have to be controlled by your feelings and secondly you are not the helpless prisoner of your past. So, begin by realizing that you are in control of your behaviour. It is a proven fact that feelings change as behaviour changes. Make a choice to forgive your partner.

Forgiveness involves three steps;

1. Using your free will to make a choice to forgive
2. Deliberately behaving in the manner that the Lord has shown in the Bible to be right
3. Trusting Him to do His part by renewing your mind and giving you new, transformed attitudes.

STEP ONE: CHOOSING TO FORGIVE

• "Make straight paths for your feet, lest that which is lame turned out of the way; but let it rather be healed. Follow peace with all men, lest any man fail of the grace of God; lest any root of bitterness springing up trouble you and thereby many be defiles" (Heb 12:13-15)
• You will indeed suffer by your own choice until you decide to fully and completely forgive any wrongs done to you.

STEP TWO: CHANGING YOUR BEHAVIOUR

• "Let all bitterness, and wrath, and anger, and clamour, and evil speaking, be put away from you, with all malice: And be ye kind one to another, tenderhearted forgiving one another, even as God for Christ's sake hath forgiven you."(Eph 4:31-32)
• The essence of kind treatment of your partner is to treat him or her precisely as you want to be treated.

STEP THREE: RENEWING YOUR MIND

• "This one thing I do, forgetting those things which are behind, and reaching forth those things which are before... "(Phil 3:13)
• Forgetting..reaching forth. This is the way to continue beyond the moment of forgiveness into the kingdom of love to live there for the rest of your life.

Prescription For A Superb Marriage

Excerpt from, Staying In Love For A Lifetime by Ed Wheat

The prescription involves a practical course of action for a husband and wife. It is called B-E-S-T.

Blessing
Edifying
Sharing
Touching

1) Blessing.(Good words, kind actions, thankful appreciation & intercessory prayer for your partner)

• The first way of blessing your marriage partner is to speak well of him or her, and to respond with good words even when your partner's speech become harsh, critical or insulting.
• You bless by bestowing practical benefits upon; simply by doing kind things for another person.
• You bless by showing thankfulness and appreciation.
• You bless by calling God's favor down in prayer.

2) Edifying.

• Referring to an expanded love expressed in positive ways that enlarges the self-worth of the beloved.
• Three personal strands are interwoven: personal encouragement, inner strengthening and the establishment of peace and harmony between individuals.
• Both husband and wife have a tremendous need for encouragement by word, by focused attention, by eye contact and by loving touch to keep them alive as growing, confident individuals.

3) Sharing

• Sharing should touch all areas of life - your time, activities, interests and concerns, ideas and innermost thoughts, spiritual walk, family objectives and goals, etc.
• Sharing demands giving yourself, listening to your partner, and as you live life together, developing a sensitive awareness of moments that offer possibilities for deepening the love between you.

4) Touching

• A tender touch tells us that we are cared for. It can calm our fears, soothe pain, bring us comfort, or give us the blessed satisfaction of emotional security.
• Physical contact is absolutely essential in building the emotion of love.

The Genesis of Marriage

Excerpt from: Staying in love for a lifetime by Ed Wheat

1. The idea of male and female was God's idea - "So God created man in his own image, in the image of God created he him; male and female created he them" Gen 1:27

2. Marriage Was designed by God to meet the first problem of the human race: loneliness ~...And the Lord God caused a deep sleep to fall upon Adam and he slept; and He took one of his ribs, and closed up the flesh instead thereof ; and the rib, which the Lord God had taken from man, made he a woman, and brought her unto the man. Gen 2: 18 - 22. Marriage always begins with a need that has been there from the dawn of time, a need for companionship and completion  that God understands. Marriage was designed to relieve the fundamental loneliness that every human experiences.

3. Marriage was planned and decreed to bring happiness, not misery. -  " And Adam said, this is now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man" (Gen 2:23).  So, when the Lord brought the woman to Adam, the man expressed his feelings in words like these. "I have finally found the one who can complete me, who takes away my loneliness, who will be as dear to me as my own flesh. She is so beautiful! She is perfectly suited to me. She is all I will ever need!  

4. Marriage must begin with a leaving of all other relationships in order to establish a permanent relationship between one man and one woman. ~ "Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife; and they shall be one flesh" (Gen 2: 24). Understand that first of all, marriage begins with a leaving; leaving all other relationships. The man's full commitment is now to his wife. And the wife's full commitment is now to her husband. But a leaving must occur, for neither parents nor any other relationships should come between a husband and a wife. This means that you and your mate need to refocus your lives on each other rather than looking to another individual or group of people to meet your emotional needs.  

5. Marriage requires an inseparable joining of husband and wife throughout their lifetime.- "Therefore shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall cleave unto his wife; and they shall be one flesh" (Gen 2:24). There is no use leaving unless you are ready to spend a lifetime cleaving. Cleaving means "to cling or to adhere".The cleaving is also intellectual, emotional and physical. It means that you will have unceasing opportunity to cleave to your partner even in the smallest details of life. It involves two characteristics; an unswerving loyalty and an active, pursuing love that will not let go.

6. Marriage means oneness in the fullest possible sense, including intimate physical union without shame. - "Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, shall cleave unto his wife; and they shall be one flesh. And they were both naked, the man and his wife, and were not ashamed" (Gen 2:24-25). Although it goes deeper than the physical, becoming one flesh involves intimate physical union in sexual intercourse. And this without shame between marriage partners. The biblical expression for sexual intercourse between husband and wife is to know, an expression of profound dignity. Thus, in the divine pattern of marriage, sexual intercourse between husband and wife includes both intimate physical knowledge and a tender, intimate, personal knowledge.So the leaving, cleaving and knowing each other results in a new identity in which two individuals merge into one - one in mind, heart, body and spirit.

What I Learned From My Mother..

1. To keep the past as past.

2. To never confront people upfront in public no matter how right you think you are.

3. To never hit a child no matter how big the mistake is.

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He is smart, He is a sweet talker, He is a heartbreaker

He drew me close to him with his wits.

His words fell like dew drops in the morning.. cooling and refreshing

He opened up my closed heart with a knock that couldn't be ignored.

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My memory of You..That Troubled Man..

When I saw you..standing tall with your hazel eyes, blonde tied hair, deep arrogant voice practically showing off  your assets..I thought " damn..who was this man?"...and looked away. You asked my number from that counter lady..

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Immortals

This movie was picked without me researching the net nor after watching  the trailer. The moment I saw the armor suit, I wanted to watch it.

In my opinion this movie;
1. Cinematography is marvelous. It is beyond beautiful.
2. Casts are perfect. I don't know the main lead except the beautiful Oracle but He is tall (He can pass as the reincarnate of King Solomon for his height).
3. The story is brilliant. It is unpredictable.
4. It has a lot of beautiful scene.
5. In short, please watch.
6. I am going to give it 5 stars because I loved it. The flaws are passable. huhu
7. Happy watching! :)

Immortals - Official Trailer [HD]

Real Steel

I watched this a few weeks ago and I would want to say;
1. I like Hugh Jackman and I still think he is a great actor. But having seen him in X-Men makes it hard for me not to compare his acting chop here and there. He did fine by the way, just that I think he is not so much in-sync with his "son- Max". To me, both were trying to step up their game and trying to get the most of their characters but unfortunately, it downplay their relationship as father and son. In what way? Well maybe the idea was for Max to be as stubborn as the dad but it came out "wrongly" because it gave me the "awkward" feeling as if ...well..it didn't feel sincere like a father- son relationship.

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Blessed friends *Women's talk*

Today, I want to talk about my friends in the office. I am very much blessed with wonderful people in my life and that is including the people inside my office.

1. Mrs. C, is a mother of three. She is smart, effective and totally dedicated. Whatever job or task you ask of her to do, consider it is done. But she is also someone very fragile at heart. She is easily panic and that's why she never let any problem linger for a long time, she would promptly find a way to solve it. She is to me someone I can rely on in search of wisdom. Like a mother, she would give sound advice every time. I can pour my frustration to her because she understands. She is a jewel.

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My hope is in You

The house is as usual, empty. When he returned back today, I wondered again when will I be able to see him again. My biggest question is "WHEN will I be able to become a normal WIFE"?

It feels like I only had a wonderful dream. One that I wake up too early only to realize that the moments has passed.

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Follow Your Heart by Andrew Matthews

The Ten Concepts:

1. We are here to learn a lesson, and the world is our teacher.
2. The universe has no favourites
3. Your life is a perfect reflection of your beliefs.
4. The moment you get too attached to things, people, money..you screw it up.

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Marriage is Hard Work

The good thing about having a husband is you have someone who is exclusively yours for the rest of your life, not that he is your belonging but that he does belong to you. My husband is away and I am having this happy thoughts about him. At the same time, thinking about our long history together, I walked down the path of both happy and sad memories of all the relationship I have had in my life. I wondered why some of my relationships never worked out  and why this one relationship survived through much ordeal.

I think I now know the reason why. He does complete me. He acknowledged and see the real me. The worst thing a man can do to you is seeing you as an object of "pleasure" and as someone he always need to correct and protect. I don't mind man being manly and a man who loves shielding me from all the bad things in the world but I rather wanted to feel equally able to protect myself and that is what I get from him. He gives me my freedom to be selfishly me.

I believe when one is given the room and space to be absolutely herself and himself  that person can make you much happier because he or she is positive about life and will rub off that positive aura on you. Both sides will benefit when both struggle alongside each other to become the best in the each of their area of expertise.

There is a saying that says something like this; You cannot love a bird with a small cage. No matter where the bird wants to fly to, in order for it to soar freely in your heart you have to become larger spiritually and completely let go but stay within an appropriate distance. That says a lot about how we must not cage our beloved. We must not allow any kind of selfishness to rule them and trap them within our own realm. But at the same time, we must not let them go away that they might fly farther not realizing they have fly away too far they are detached from you for eternity. You have to keep that love on fire. In what way?

Marriage is  a hard work. Recently Kris and Kim Kardashian ended their 72 days marriage and although they did not state the reason why it ended it is clear that we do not want to end up divorced like them. Commitment is the key to stay in a marriage. I am unable to accept how some celebrities downplay commitment as if it is a piece of garment that can be discarded at will. If only they plan their commitment as detailed as their wedding ceremony  I am sure nothing like that will happen.But, that is not for me to judge.

For all of us who wish only the best for each other, maybe it is not right to tell others what is right and what is wrong but it would be good to remind ourselves that a relationship ended not just because of one person's fault. There are two sides of a coin. It ended because you are "available" and you are "available" only if you have will your "emotion" to be free for temptation. It doesn't necessarily a temptation from a seemingly better guy but a single life that looks like much better than having someone by your side. But than again, who would want to stay married to a man who clearly mistakes you as a "servant" and not an equally able person. It all comes back to what type of marriage you have committed yourself to. I am sure everyone wants to live happily ever after with their prince or princess.

All the best to us. For better or worse!

Apollo 18

Have you watched this? I was half-away sleepy when I watched this. Kesian my dear hubby who chose this movie. I must say, to watch this movie one must really be very "passionate" about moon and aerospace to stay focus, because I didn't curse but I wish we stayed home and watched history channel instead of watching this movie. I'll give it 3 stars. ^_^

I Think Writing is Important ...

I have read something that goes like this; Reading is good because it allows you to absorb new ideas but writing is essential to actualize your thoughts. I agree with the statement. Sometimes you get new ideas from your reading but overtime if you never really put it into thoughts, you might lost the essence.

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